Time to Be Creative with Your First Date

Are you getting a bit bored with the usual first date event of going out for a drink or a meal? If you are, you’re not alone – lots of people fall into doing this because it is the usual thing to do. We do it out of habit more than anything else.

But there are other things you can do to perk up that first date, and they might just get the ball rolling in the process.

The worst thing about the first date is breaking the ice. You can feel very awkward to begin with as you get to know each other and find things in common that you can easily talk about.

This is why going for a meal or a drink can be difficult, because you haven’t really got anything to do. For instance you might toy with your drink or choose a meal from the menu, but that’s about it. Furthermore you can’t really talk politely when you are eating!

So it stands to reason that other activities might be better. Think about bowling for example. This is always good fun and most people will give it a go even if they have never tried it before. The good thing about this is that it is a public place too, so if it is a blind date you’ll also feel quite safe with lots of other people around.

Ideally you should get to know each other a bit before you plan the first actual meeting. This would be easy if you have met each other online, because you can email each other or message each other through the site you met on. Try and get to know what your likes and dislikes are, because it will make it much easier to plan a successful and creative first date.

For instance you might find you both love theme parks. Why not head out to one nearby for the day together? You are guaranteed to have a more successful date if you are both doing something you love.

Some activities may not sound like the ideal first date but they are certainly creative. How about bungee jumping for the adventurous or a restaurant crawl for food lovers? This means eating every course of a meal somewhere different, and it will certainly be something to talk about.

Just remember that it is always better to chat with each other first to agree on a good first date. You can do this by emailing or sending an online SMS if you wish. Whatever way you get in touch, remember to let your imagination run wild. This is the only way you will come up with the best and most creative first date you can.

All that’s left to do then is to enjoy it!

Daniel Collins writes on a number of topics on behalf of a digital marketing agency and a variety of clients. As such, this article is to be considered a professional piece with business interests in mind.

Mom, the car, and a duck – Oct 1943
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Image by Ed Yourdon
Another photo on the same album page says "Fall of 1943," so I’ve arbitrarily dated this one in October of that year.

A note on the back of this print says, "Isn’t our car pretty?"

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All of the photos in this album are “originals” from the period when I was an infant in the mid-1940s — i.e., the period before I lived in Omaha, Riverside, Roswell, New York, Ft. Worth, and Denver (photos of which you may have seen already in my Flickr archives).

Before I get into the details, let me make a strong request — if you’re looking at these photos, and if you are getting any enjoyment at all of this brief look at some mundane Americana from 70+ years ago: find a similar episode in your own life, and write it down. Gather the pictures, clean them up, and upload them somewhere on the Internet where they can be found. Trust me: there will come a day when the only person on the planet who actually experienced those events is you. Your own memories may be fuzzy and incomplete; but they will be invaluable to your friends and family members, and to many generations of your descendants.

My own story changes dramatically at this point: the man I’ve presented as my Dad in previous Flickr albums, Ray Yourdon, was actually my stepfather. My birth parents grew up in Washington DC, married, and moved to Florida in the early days of World War II. My birth father worked as a flight instructor for the Air Force, and I was born on an Air Force base near Ft. Walton Beach, in the panhandle section of Florida (which you can read about here, if you’re interested: www.eglin.af.mil )

Some time after that, my parents divorced and my mother moved back to Washington with me, to live with her mother. After a bitter custody battle over me (so I’ve been told), I didn’t see my birth-father again until I was 30—at which point I was surprised to learn that I had three more half-sisters, in addition to the two I had grown up with (i.e., both my mother and my birth-father had remarried after they got divorced from each other). But that’s another story, with another set of photos …

Meanwhile, my mother worked as a secretary in the Pentagon as the war wound down, and when my stepfather ended up in Washington toward the end of his tour of duty in the Navy, they met, and married, and moved to Denver to begin a new life … chapters of which you’ve been seeing in these Flickr albums during the last several weeks.

So the photos in this album are from my birth in Florida through the first year or so of my childhood in Washington — uploaded in reverse chronological order, starting in 1945. I haven’t written any details, because I have no conscious memory of what was happening at the time; and at this point, all of my parents, step-parents, and grandparents are gone. Yes, I do have five wonderful sisters, all of whom share various memories with me; but I’m the oldest of the brood, so I have no siblings with first-hand information about what I was doing for the first year or two of my life.

All I have are the photos that you see here. But they do tell a story, and that’s why I think it’s so important that you track down all of your own photos and preserve them somewhere for the generations who will follow after you.

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4 Things You Can Do Immediately After Your First Date

The first date with a woman can be a nerve-wracking time. You’ve spent the past hour or so with her and you start to wonder ‘what’s the next step’?

So what should you do at this point? Well your actions at this point should be based on how well the date went.

If you’ve had a great time, then you know you can try for another date. On the other hand, if you two didn’t click, then you should cut your losses and not try for a second date.

To give you an idea of what you should do, I’ve included four different outcomes that’ll happen once your date has concluded.

When you’re coming to the end of the date, you should do a quick evaluation and make a decision based on which of these four results you want.

Result #1: Go your separate ways

Let’s be honest here…There are going to be first dates where you don’t hit it off with a woman.

Either there was no chemistry or your personalities don’t mesh, it’ll be obvious the two of you won’t going on a second date.

Once you realize it won’t work, end the date and cut your losses!

Since the date was brief, you really haven’t wasted that much time or money. By ending the date quickly, you’ll be able to avoid hurt feelings and will move on to the next woman.

So when you realize the date has gone badly, just end and tell her you have stuff to do.

But please be honest and don’t promise to call her you’re never planning on speaking to her again.

Result #2: You set up a second date

Many guys think a first date is only successful if you end up having sex. In my opinion, this is wrong!

There are a lot of times when you want to have a lot of fun on a first date, but don’t want it to lead to sex. This is especially true if you’re looking for a long-term relationship.

During your first date, you’ll probably get an idea if there is chemistry between the two of you. At this point, you can try two things:

First you can suggest a ‘venue change’ (I’ll cover this in the next section) and go on an immediate second date. Or you can end the date if one of you has already made plans after the first date.

Now if one of you has to leave after the first date, I suggest you immediately set up a follow up date.

Here’s how to do it…

As you’re ending the date, take something from the conversation and playfully turn it into concrete plans for landing that second date.

For instance if she expressed interest in a particular type of music mention that you’re checking out a band which is similar to her taste. Then ask if she wants to ‘tag along’ with you.

Or even now that you’ve broken the ice, you could go out to dinner or promise her a home cooked meal. The point is one the first date has ending, immediately make plans for the second plan.

Result #3: Transition immediately to the second date

One technique many guys use at the end of a first date is to do a ‘venue change’. This is where you leave the location of your first date and immediately go another place.

Since you’re changing locations the woman will subconsciously think you’ve gone from the first date to a second date.

As I mentioned before, your first date should be real casual. But if you feel a lot of chemistry has been built, you can use a venue change to continue the positive emotions and go someplace where the two of you’ll get to know each other better.

The best way to do a venue change is to plan it out before the first date. If things go well, you can casually mention you’re planning on meeting some friends at this place and ask if she wants to ‘tag along’.

If she agrees you should immediately leave the location of your first date and transition right into the second.

Result #4: Make things sexual

Regardless of whether you’ve pulled a venue change or just had a single date, there might be an opportunity to have sex with a woman on the first date.

Now before we proceed, I just want to mention that having sex on the first date is an event that doesn’t happen very often, especially if you’re trying to build a relationship. So don’t be too disappointed if it doesn’t happen.

On the other hand, if you’re determined to have sex then you should first find out if she is interested in you in a sexual way. The best way to determine this is to kiss her. What I like to do is use ‘The Kiss Test’ from the Double Your Dating system.

If you determine she wants to make things more intimate, you can try going back to one your places. Then once you’re in private, you can allow nature to take its course and let the rest of the evening evolve…

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Porta Westfalica – Holzhausen 08
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Image by Daniel Mennerich
The date of construction of the Wall Dutchman, with its conical rendered rubble stone tower remains unknown, but is estimated around 1830.

During the restoration, he has new mill cap with compass plant and sail wings get one.

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4 First Date Conversation Starters Which Women Love

In general, dating can be tough work, and first dates can be even tougher. One of the things that can easily turn a first date into a difficult endeavor has to do with knowing exactly what to say. By nature, people tend to be afraid of failing, fearing rejection from square one. Both of these fears contribute to the fear of not having adequate conversation on the date with someone that you sincerely care about.

Conversations on the initial date can play a very large determining role in whether or not a second, third or even fourth date will ever happen. Here are four excellent first date conversation starters.

– One great way that you can start up a conversation on your first date is to find out as much information as you can about the other person. Do not ask too many personal things, but rather focus on broad topics during first date conversation. Keep things basic by asking about jobs, favorites, interests and hobbies for example. Use open ended questions rather than questions that simply require yes or no as answers. These questions are much better creators of conversation.

– While you are on your first date, you should absolutely listen for interesting information that could possibly lead to the conversation moving in a different direction. For example, if the woman you are with decides to start talking about a snorkeling trip she took last year, you can start to talk specifically about snorkeling, scuba diving, the ocean and other similar things that she may be interested in. Was it the first time she went snorkeling? How did she learn how to do it? If you listen intently to the conversation during the first date, you can learn a lot more about the person that you are becoming passionate about.

– As part of the conversation, you should make a point to ask about things like “What is the craziest thing that you have ever done?” Tell her about your craziest thing as well. Questions like “If you could have any super power, what would it be?” are excellent at allowing you to gain insight into the person that you are getting to know on the first date.

– If you are afraid that you will have difficulty striking up conversation on the date with your new partner, you should plan ahead and take a significant amount of time to plan ideas out before the date. Going on a first date is almost sort of like a job interview in that the preparation is just as critical as the date itself.

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Spokane Wa ~ Review Building ~ Historic Building
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Image by Onasill ~ Bill Badzo
Date Built1890
Architect / BuilderChauncey B. Seaton
NeighborhoodRiverside
Historic District
National Register Date02/27/1975

The Review Building houses the offices of the Spokesman-Review, Spokane’s principal newspaper. It is one of the tallest buildings in Spokane; its tower is taller than the main roofs of the Paulsen Medical and Dental and Old National Bank buildings. Since its construction, it has been one of the most conspicuous buildings in town.

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Where to Go on Your First Date

That is an age-old question. Cave men had it made. They firmly believed in kidnapping and taking their date to a filthy cave out in the middle of nowhere. Those were what was known as the good old days. Now days first date destinations and plans are a little trickier. First let’s cover where NOT to go on a first date.

The old standby of dinner and a movie is a really poor choice for a first date. How will you get to know the lady if you are sitting in a darkened theater with a movie being shown? If you choose the movie, there is probably going to be a lot of frantic car chases and a lot of blood involved. Neither are conducive to creating a memorable evening.

Also, don’t take your date to your parent’s house! She will know right away that you are a mama’s boy and you will never see her again.

Don’t take your date to a sleazy bar with a motel out back. You will scare the poor woman to death. She will jump out of the car and hitchhike back to town believing that she would be safer with a burly truck driver than with you. Now, some good first date ideas are:

Begin with a simple lunch or coffee date. You want to keep the date casual so suggesting meeting up for lunch or coffee can be a good start. This way, if the date didn’t go so well, you can end the date there but if you enjoy each other company, you have the rest of the day to spend getting to know each other better.

Here are some ideas of where to go if the lunch or coffee date tells you’re there is some good chemistry happening:

If it is the season, an amusement park or a theme park is a good first date idea. It doesn’t matter how old you are, we can all be big kids at heart. There’re so much you can do at amusement parks and theme parks that most likely you will forget about the dating pressure and just have fun.

Most well populated areas have an array of museums covering many different subjects. Visiting one that is dedicated to something that you have in common with the woman is another good first date idea.

Review Building Spokane WA ~ Take a moment to study if you have time.
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Image by Onasill ~ Bill Badzo
Date Built1890
Architect / BuilderChauncey B. Seaton
NeighborhoodRiverside
Historic District
National Register Date02/27/1975

The Review Building houses the offices of the Spokesman-Review, Spokane’s principal newspaper. It is one of the tallest buildings in Spokane; its tower is taller than the main roofs of the Paulsen Medical and Dental and Old National Bank buildings. Since its construction, it has been one of the most conspicuous buildings in town. Located on an irregular lot, its architect, Chauncey B. Seaton designed it to fit the shape of the lot well. Seaton came to Spokane in the aftermath of the Spokane Fire in 1889 to help rebuild Spokane. In 1890, he designed and supervised the construction of the Spokane Exposition Building. Although he designed the Review Building, he left before it was completed. In its early days, the building housed the Hotel Review in the upper floors. It also housed the Spokane Daily Chronicle until the build ng became too crowded, and the Chronicle moved into its own building, next south in 1921. The Review Building was erected to house the Review, an evening daily paper, which was established by Frank Dallam as a weekly paper in 1883. Its closest competitor was the Spokesman, a democratic paper owned by a group of Spokane businessmen. In 1893, the competition between the two newspapers necessitated a merger if either was to survive. Out of this the Spokane Morning Review was born, under the management of Harvey Scott, H. L. Pittock, Anthony Cannon, and W. H. Cowles. The Panic of 1893 severely hurt the paper, and Cowles came to Spokane from Chicago to salvage it. He gained total control and created the Spokesman Review. W. H. Cowles was an important and influential businessman in Spokane. He was a founding member of the Spokane Chamber of Commerce, regional director of the Boy Scouts of America, and director for the Associated Press for thirty-three years. Theodore Roosevelt, Herbert Hoover, and William Howard Taft sought his advice. The family still owns and runs the paper and are generous civic benefactors in Spokane.

First Date Tips: How to Make a Good First Impression

Some people have absolutely no problem making a great first impression on a first date. It’s probably safe to say, however, that most of us have just enough social anxiety to make it easier to embarrass ourselves on a first date than it is to make a great impression.

Don’t feel like a weirdo if this describes you. Plenty of people have the same problem, and it’s only natural. So for those of us not gifted with a complete lack of social anxiety, we present First Date Tips: How to Make a Good First Impression.

Step One – It’s Corny, but it’s True: be Yourself

The easiest way to be yourself: Don’t treat the date like it’s a huge deal!

If you go into a first date thinking, “This might be my future husband/wife! Everything’s riding on this!” then you are probably going to get incredibly nervous.

Remember the other corny old cliche. There’s plenty of other fish in the sea.

The simplest way to take the pressure off and allow yourself to simply act naturally is to not even think of it as a date. It’s simply meeting a new person. Neither side should be going in with any expectations. Just act as you would around anyone for the first time.

Step Two – Presentation and Politeness

Being yourself doesn’t mean you don’t have to show just a bit of class.

Dress nicely, but don’t overdo it. Just throw on whatever you think you look good in, maybe iron your favorite shirt or have your good dress pressed, and call it a day. Don’t bother spending several hours putting on makeup. Just put on your normal, daily makeup (if you hit it off, this is how your date is going to be seeing you on a regular basis, anyways, no point in false advertising). Guys, you don’t need to wear a suit. It’s a date, not a job interview.

As for manners on a date: Each date is different, but you may not want to jump into volatile subjects of discussion, such as politics and religion, right off the bat. There’s time for that if you go on a second date. You may also want to save crass humor for later. We all have a crude joke or two up our sleeves, but most people consider it tacky to take things in that direction on a first date.

Step Three – Don’t be Desperate to Impress

Either you’ll hit it off with your date, or you won’t. Making a good first impression can count for a lot, but sometimes, two people just aren’t right for one another.

The trick is to present yourself well so as to see if you have something in common with your date, and to see if you’d like to continue seeing this person. A date isn’t something you win or lose at, so there’s no need to try to give a false impression. Don’t feign interest and don’t lie. Just be yourself, hope that your date is doing the same, and see if you hit it off.

And if you don’t, there’s plenty of other- well, you know.

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Hartford Connecticut ~ First Church of Christ and the Ancient Burying Ground ~ Historic
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The Hartford congregation was originally founded as a Reformed congregation in 1636 with Thomas Hooker serving as the first pastor. The members of the congregation had previously migrated from England to Massachusetts and spent four years there before leaving Massachusetts after a dispute with the Massachusetts government. The old burial ground adjacent to the building in Hartford dates to around 1640. The current church meeting house dates to 1807 and is the fourth meeting house to serve as a place of worship for the congregation. The church meeting house and cemetery were added to the National Register of Historic Places in 1972. The congregation is currently affiliated with the United Church of Christ (UCC).

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Fun First Date Ideas That She’ll Love

Congratulations! She’s agreed to go out on a date with you! Whether you’ve been trying to get her attention for minutes, months or millennia, it’s a great sign that she’s agreed to spend time with you. Now, the most important thing you must do is plan out that time. No matter how well or how little you know someone, first dates can be awkward. You need to work to mitigate that feeling and can do so by considering some fun first date ideas.

There are options that you can consider for your first date that range anywhere from low key to extremely extravagant. You have to carefully consider what relationship you may have already built with the woman of your dreams as friends, coworkers or acquaintance and plan out your first date to be based not only on that but on anything you already know about your new friend.

Some terrific and fun first date ideas include low key settings like the beach or a concert or to play pool. By not taking her into an intense environment, you are giving both her and yourself permission to relax and really get to know each other in a casual setting.

If want to attract this woman, you can tailor the date to her interests. If you know what kind of music she likes, a concert can be a good first date because you can have a shared interest to concentrate on and limited times to feel awkward in between. Playing pool may bring out your competitive sides and leave you both feeling good about your date. And who doesn’t love going to the beach ‘ assuming one is nearby, of course! Rays, waves and dates ‘ they all fit together nicely.

For a first date that includes more one on one attention, consider packing a picnic lunch and heading off to a peaceful setting. This will give you time to really talk and get to know each other without the pressures of the outside world intruding.

And if you run out of topics of conversation, you’ve packed plenty of food to enjoy together. One of the most fun activities you can participate in on a picnic date is spreading out a huge blanket and laying back to simply watch the clouds roll by. With any amount of luck and a bit of chemistry thrown in, you’ll be holding hands and even more by the end of the day.

If you want to show the new lady in your life how special you think she is – and how much you want to pamper her, you’ll want to choose a high end first date that is extravagant with a capital ‘E.’ Instead of a sightseeing tour around your city, instead arrange for a hot air balloon ride.

Expensive, but well worth snagging the woman of your dreams! Among fun first date ideas, arranging all transportation by limo service is near the top. You can take a limo anywhere ‘ even to the park for a picnic lunch. But how romantic of you to arrange to ride in luxury!

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Lift yourself off…
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I’m into you,
You into me
But I cant let it go
So easily
Not ’til I see
What this could be
Be eternity
Or just a week
You know, our chemistry
Is off the chain
Is perfect now
But will it change
This ain’t a yes
This ain’t a no
Just do your thang
We’ll see how it goes

If at first you don’t succeed
Dust yourself off and try it again
You can dust it off and try again

If you dont wanna throw it all away
Might be shy on the first date
What about the next date
huh, huh, huh, huh

–Aaliyah

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5 First Date Tips For Creating Instant Attraction with a Woman

Asking out a woman is a battle in and of it self, so if she agrees to a date, you’re good to go! The only thing left to do is plan an evening that will really impress her, which is easier to do than you may think.

Many guys stress out over the first date, and for good reason. Worries over what to say or do flood the mind, making the event seem more like a chore than a pleasurable experience. If you’re reading this article, chances are you can relate to this.

Continue reading to learn how to effectively approach a first date. By the time you’re finished, you’ll have all the tools necessary to ensure an enjoyable evening, and many more to come.

Tip #1- Don’t Set Yourself Up for Disappointment

In other words, relax. By conjuring up visions of what would make the date perfect, just go with the flow. If you’re nervous, it’s going to show, so take a few deep breaths and chill out.

Don’t attach any expectations to the date, and you won’t be disappointed. Understand that there is a possibility that the evening won’t go as planned, and if that happens, it’s no big deal. There are other girls and other dates to be had. Plan nothing in advance other than to have a great time.

Tip #2- Limit your time

A lot of guys pull out all the stops for the first date, which is unwise. A first date is a lot like a job interview, in that you’re trying to determine if there’s relationship potential. With that said, save the five-star dinners for after you’ve qualified her, and in the meantime, take her out for coffee/drinks or something physical–like a hike.

Tip #3- Be in control and plan out the date

There’s nothing more appealing to a woman than a man who’s in control and knows what he wants. Know ahead of time where you’d like to take your date, and have a backup destination in case of unforeseen circumstances. Not only will you be more attractive in her eyes, but you’ll also have the ability to limit your time as previously discussed.

Tip #4- Have fun and flirt

The most important element to a fun first date is the chemistry. You want to build rapport with the woman, and the only way to do that is to have fun. Give her the eye, delicately touch her arm, and tease her lightly. By flirting and maintaining a playful attitude, you’ll enhance the sexual attraction needed to ensure future dates.

People respond directly to the energy they’re subjected to. Your aim with the first date is to make the woman relaxed in your presence, and she won’t be able to do that if you’re nervous and on edge. Instead, realize that you’re out with a beautiful woman, and enjoy your time with her. You’ll create an evening she’ll never forget.

Tip #5- Know when to break the rules

The preceding rules should be used as guidelines, but they aren’t unbreakable. For example, if the two of you really hit it off, don’t bother limiting your time, and take her home instead. Use your own judgment, and if you feel a rule isn’t working, make an necessary tweaks to ensure a fantastic first date.

Conclusion

The most important element to a successful first date is your attitude. If you relax and have fun, your date will too. Your aim is to build a solid rapport that will lead to many more dates to come. Use these five tips, and every first date will be an amazing one.

Want to learn a PROVEN way to increase your success with women?. If so, take a look at Steve Scott’s Alpha Attraction system which gives 33 Rules for mastering your success with women!

Chichén Itzá MEX – Iglesia west side 03
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Image by Daniel Mennerich
Las Monjas is one of the more notable structures at Chichen Itza.

It is a complex of Terminal Classic buildings constructed in the Puuc architectural style. The Spanish named this complex Las Monjas ("The Nuns" or "The Nunnery") but it was actually a governmental palace.

Just to the east is a small temple (known as the La Iglesia, "The Church") decorated with elaborate masks.

The Las Monjas group is distinguished by its concentration of hieroglyphic texts dating to the Late to Terminal Classic. These texts frequently mention a ruler by the name of Kakupakal.

El Caracol ("The Snail") is located to the north of Las Monjas. It is a round building on a large square platform.

It gets its name from the stone spiral staircase inside. The structure, with its unusual placement on the platform and its round shape (the others are rectangular, in keeping with Maya practice), is theorized to have been a proto-observatory with doors and windows aligned to astronomical events, specifically around the path of Venus as it traverses the heavens.

Akab Dzib is located to the east of the Caracol. The name means, in Yucatec Mayan, "Dark (in the "Mysterious" sense) Writing." An earlier name of the building, according to a translation of glyphs in the Casa Colorada, is Wa(k)wak Puh Ak Na, "the flat house with the excessive number of chambers,” and it was the home of the administrator of Chichén Itzá, kokom Yahawal Cho’ K’ak’.

INAH completed a restoration of the building in 2007. It is relatively short, only 6 metres high, and is 50 metres in length and 15 metres wide. The long, western-facing facade has seven doorways. The eastern facade has only four doorways, broken by a large staircase that leads to the roof. This apparently was the front of the structure, and looks out over what is today a steep, but dry, cenote. The southern end of the building has one entrance. The door opens into a small chamber and on the opposite wall is another doorway, above which on the lintel are intricately carved glyphs—the “mysterious” or “obscure” writing that gives the building its name today.

Under the lintel in the door jamb is another carved panel of a seated figure surrounded by more glyphs. Inside one of the chambers, near the ceiling, is a painted hand print.

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Kissing On The First Date Or More?

So how do you know when more than kissing on the first date is acceptable? Is it when you fall madly in love the first time you see the person or is it because of something else?

Kissing on the first date has been a taboo subject for decades way before any of our time. Today dating is much different and kissing on the first date is not as big a deal as it was several years ago. But, the question remains how do you know if kissing or more should be a part of the first date? Here are a few things that you should take into consideration when thinking about how far to go on your date.

First are you female or male?

If you are a male this is a no brainer, a lot of men would go all the way before the first date if that were possible. Men do not worry about what you are going to think of them tomorrow or how society may frown upon their sexual excursions. Men do not worry so much about the technicalities of dating. Women on the other hand have an entire set of criteria that they consider before they will even touch a man. They are thinking about how it will look, what others will say and will he be respectful tomorrow. Men and women are wired completely different and in order to decide what is right for you, it takes an examination of a few inner beliefs.

What makes you feel good?

Yes, sex makes you feel good, but that is not what we mean here. Think the situation through before acting upon your feelings. How will you feel about the decision tomorrow, next week or next year? Will you regret the fact, be embarrassed about it or feel good about it. This is the leading problem with those individuals that engage in sex on the first date. They often end up regretting it because they did not consider the consequences or think it all the way through. So think it through and just do not jump in the sack for fifteen minutes of fame.

Who is this person?

Another consideration in kissing on the first date and/or sex, is who are you with? Do you know this person and do you really like this person? Is this someone that you want to spend time with or are you looking for something else? Do you need someone to listen to you, or love you and instead of seeking the right thing you turn to sex. This is a very common issue, people are looking for something and are not sure what it is, so they turn to physical satisfaction. If this person is not someone that you can see yourself with past tonight, you may want to take the relationship a little slower.

Go for it

Of course most people are going to say that kissing on the first date is completely different than sex on the first date. Since there is not a dating code or law it is hard to know whether or not if you should. A simple kiss shouldnt be a big deal, right? Well, to most people it is not a big deal, but there are those that take it very seriously. Everyone is different so what may be a minor kiss, may be a true life changing event to them, so this is something that you have to decide. Most people would agree, however that if you are attracted, feel a connection and are interested go for a kiss on the first date. If not and you are not sure about the person, play it by ear, go out with them again to see where it leads.

Do what is right for you.

Do not get too wound up in what others think or what is right for them. Everyone is different and just because someone has an opinion does not make it right. So you do what feels right for you and quit worrying about everyone else. Have a positive dating relationship and consider yourself, no one else!

Lee Blackspur is the owner of http://www.My-Dating-Advice.com which provides free online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience.

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After talking to a woman and getting to know her on the phone, it’s time to set up your first date. But what actions should you take on the first date which can ensure future dates.

By now, you’re probably wondering what you should say and where to take her. Perhaps, you might even entertain the thought of how to get her back to your place for a more intimate encounter.

In the next few paragraphs I’ll show you a few tips that’ll help you have an awesome first date.

Tip #1- Remove all expectations and worries

Probably the biggest problem which guys face on their first date is getting too worked up about being perfect. While it’s important to make a good impression, you shouldn’t put too much emphasis on say or doing the right thing.

An easy way to do this is to remove all expectations about any outcome. If it goes badly, then the only thing you’ve wasted is a little time and money. But if you have a great time, then you might find a great woman to take on future dates.

Tip #2- Limit your time

One big mistake that many guys make is to plan out this extravagant event for the first date. When you first meet a woman, you’re using the time to qualify her as someone who might want to date in the future. The best way to do this is to meet her for coffee or a drink. That way, you haven’t wasted too much of your resources on a woman who’s not worth dating.

Tip #3- Be in control and plan out the date

Women are attracted to guys who are in control of their lives and make decisions. If you take the initiative and plan out your event, then you’ll come across as more attractive. In addition, by telling her where you’re going, you will be able to go to a place of your choosing and limit your time like I described in tip #2.

Tip #4- Have fun and flirt

The secret to having a great date is to build rapport and attraction. When you’re out with her, this should be your first concern. If there is not attraction between the two of you, the date will go nowhere. So it’s important to have a little fun and flirt with her.

This basically means that you look for every opportunity to tease her and bring sexual innuendo into the conversation. One of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard is from David DeAngelo of ‘Double Your Dating’. He simply states you should treat all women your dating as a bratty little sister. If you can trip her up and tease her this way, you’ll come across as more attractive.

Tip #5- Know when to break the rules

The previous four rules aren’t set in stone. For instance, if the date is going well and you think you might end up sleeping with her that night, then you should forget about limiting your time. Just use these tips as you see fit and break them when they conflict with something that’s working for you.

If you pay attention to these five tips, you’ll end up having a lot more fun and excitement on your first dates. As a result, you’ll discover it’ll be a lot easier to build attraction and rapport with every women you date.

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Las Monjas is one of the more notable structures at Chichen Itza.

It is a complex of Terminal Classic buildings constructed in the Puuc architectural style. The Spanish named this complex Las Monjas ("The Nuns" or "The Nunnery") but it was actually a governmental palace.

Just to the east is a small temple (known as the La Iglesia, "The Church") decorated with elaborate masks.

The Las Monjas group is distinguished by its concentration of hieroglyphic texts dating to the Late to Terminal Classic. These texts frequently mention a ruler by the name of Kakupakal.

El Caracol ("The Snail") is located to the north of Las Monjas. It is a round building on a large square platform.

It gets its name from the stone spiral staircase inside. The structure, with its unusual placement on the platform and its round shape (the others are rectangular, in keeping with Maya practice), is theorized to have been a proto-observatory with doors and windows aligned to astronomical events, specifically around the path of Venus as it traverses the heavens.

Akab Dzib is located to the east of the Caracol. The name means, in Yucatec Mayan, "Dark (in the "Mysterious" sense) Writing." An earlier name of the building, according to a translation of glyphs in the Casa Colorada, is Wa(k)wak Puh Ak Na, "the flat house with the excessive number of chambers,” and it was the home of the administrator of Chichén Itzá, kokom Yahawal Cho’ K’ak’.

INAH completed a restoration of the building in 2007. It is relatively short, only 6 metres high, and is 50 metres in length and 15 metres wide. The long, western-facing facade has seven doorways. The eastern facade has only four doorways, broken by a large staircase that leads to the roof. This apparently was the front of the structure, and looks out over what is today a steep, but dry, cenote. The southern end of the building has one entrance. The door opens into a small chamber and on the opposite wall is another doorway, above which on the lintel are intricately carved glyphs—the “mysterious” or “obscure” writing that gives the building its name today.

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First Date Advice: Keep Away From The Memories

When you have been in a relationship for years that ends for whatever reason then getting back in the dating game can be very intimidating. The stress of anticipation can have you running to the doctor to get a prescription. With more than a few people, the very thought of getting back into it is just to much to handle. So they do not even try. They make peace with their solitude and that is that.

But you have decided that you will not go that route. No matter the outcome you are in the arena to stay or at least to you find that special someone who is compatible. You do not know if the person you recently met and decided to go out with for the first time is that special someone but you are determined to find out.

You have reminded yourself to meet someplace convenient, be on time, dress to impress and come ready with plenty of good topics to build conversation. In fact you may have put together a pretty good list of do’s and don’ts.

But it looks like one thing is missing and it’s a biggie. The kind of thing that could put you in a very negative light from your date’s point of view and increase the odds that you will not get a second date.

Try to the best of your abilities to avoid talking about your ex. It’s not that if the topic comes up in the course of the date that you must refuse at all cost to answer any questions about your ex. That might strike your date as very odd and the last thing you want to do on a first date is create uncertainty. If your date asks you then be as straightforward as you can without going into too much graphic detail. Answer with tact and as much brevity as the situation allows.

All this however is predicated on whether your date asks you about previous relationships. If they do not then stay away from bringing up the subject altogether. Your date is not there to analyze what may or may not have gone wrong between you and your ex.

And talking about your ex can give the wrong impression; namely that you are comparing. Your ex liked this or didn’t like that. Something occurs during the date and wouldn’t you know it, your ex used to react the same way?

Turnoff city. When that happens your date will be looking to end this date post haste.

If you had wonderful times with your ex than by all means treasure them but leave it in storage when you are out dating someone new. Besides, think about how you would feel if your date decided to take that stroll down memory lane and prattle on about their ex. As far as you are concerned the ex would be short for exit.

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