The first date with a woman can be a nerve-wracking time. You’ve spent the past hour or so with her and you start to wonder ‘what’s the next step’?
So what should you do at this point? Well your actions at this point should be based on how well the date went.
If you’ve had a great time, then you know you can try for another date. On the other hand, if you two didn’t click, then you should cut your losses and not try for a second date.
To give you an idea of what you should do, I’ve included four different outcomes that’ll happen once your date has concluded.
When you’re coming to the end of the date, you should do a quick evaluation and make a decision based on which of these four results you want.
Result #1: Go your separate ways
Let’s be honest here…There are going to be first dates where you don’t hit it off with a woman.
Either there was no chemistry or your personalities don’t mesh, it’ll be obvious the two of you won’t going on a second date.
Once you realize it won’t work, end the date and cut your losses!
Since the date was brief, you really haven’t wasted that much time or money. By ending the date quickly, you’ll be able to avoid hurt feelings and will move on to the next woman.
So when you realize the date has gone badly, just end and tell her you have stuff to do.
But please be honest and don’t promise to call her you’re never planning on speaking to her again.
Result #2: You set up a second date
Many guys think a first date is only successful if you end up having sex. In my opinion, this is wrong!
There are a lot of times when you want to have a lot of fun on a first date, but don’t want it to lead to sex. This is especially true if you’re looking for a long-term relationship.
During your first date, you’ll probably get an idea if there is chemistry between the two of you. At this point, you can try two things:
First you can suggest a ‘venue change’ (I’ll cover this in the next section) and go on an immediate second date. Or you can end the date if one of you has already made plans after the first date.
Now if one of you has to leave after the first date, I suggest you immediately set up a follow up date.
Here’s how to do it…
As you’re ending the date, take something from the conversation and playfully turn it into concrete plans for landing that second date.
For instance if she expressed interest in a particular type of music mention that you’re checking out a band which is similar to her taste. Then ask if she wants to ‘tag along’ with you.
Or even now that you’ve broken the ice, you could go out to dinner or promise her a home cooked meal. The point is one the first date has ending, immediately make plans for the second plan.
Result #3: Transition immediately to the second date
One technique many guys use at the end of a first date is to do a ‘venue change’. This is where you leave the location of your first date and immediately go another place.
Since you’re changing locations the woman will subconsciously think you’ve gone from the first date to a second date.
As I mentioned before, your first date should be real casual. But if you feel a lot of chemistry has been built, you can use a venue change to continue the positive emotions and go someplace where the two of you’ll get to know each other better.
The best way to do a venue change is to plan it out before the first date. If things go well, you can casually mention you’re planning on meeting some friends at this place and ask if she wants to ‘tag along’.
If she agrees you should immediately leave the location of your first date and transition right into the second.
Result #4: Make things sexual
Regardless of whether you’ve pulled a venue change or just had a single date, there might be an opportunity to have sex with a woman on the first date.
Now before we proceed, I just want to mention that having sex on the first date is an event that doesn’t happen very often, especially if you’re trying to build a relationship. So don’t be too disappointed if it doesn’t happen.
On the other hand, if you’re determined to have sex then you should first find out if she is interested in you in a sexual way. The best way to determine this is to kiss her. What I like to do is use ‘The Kiss Test’ from the Double Your Dating system.
If you determine she wants to make things more intimate, you can try going back to one your places. Then once you’re in private, you can allow nature to take its course and let the rest of the evening evolve…
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